Lets set the record straight. All families give each other reasons to not get along, to get pissed, to feel like life is unfair, etc. At the end of the day, if they’re doing it right, and you are as well, then they are the last to leave you.
The lack of their presence doesn’t exactly keep them from you. Their heart, and yours as well, will grow closer with distance. Trust me.
Here I speak to the fellow beings in my age range/ walk of life… Parents are going to get on your nerves in this time of transition. Its ‘bird leaving the nest syndrome’, but in this time, they will learn that support is all you need to spread your wings. All they need to do is love you and smile when you look to them for assurance.
They love you.
Whoever raises you loves and cherishes you. Most of the time this is true. SO please stop saying they’re the worst. I am so tried of myself and the people of my age trying to hate on their parents. It isn’t fully their mistake. They give too much and you want too much from them. This is the time where you establish your own means of life, and they learn what that entails.
Yes it sucks to be told what to do, but here’s some perspective from the mouth of my father, “This is the first time I am raising a twenty year old…” Just as it is your first time living your life, it is their first time watching you struggle to do so. All a parent should want to do in this stage is help you through it, but ultimatly it is up to you to spread your wings and fall on your face. They will be there if you need them… if you don’t scream at them and/or grow bitter towards their existence.
I love my family, but it took me a little while to realize just how much I do. I used to have people question why I share everything with them, and question why I am so close with my family. Answer is, I’ve been through a lot with them, and anytime I go through something it isn’t the questioning friends that help me through it, its them.
In all honesty, if you’re having a hard time with your family and such, just try talking to them about it. You can’t fix something involving two people with just one person. Communication is an important milestone in the process of growth.
My brother, father, and mother are all my best friends, and for that, I am truly fortunate.
Much love to you and your family.
~may your breath always be the way you wish~